Ask someone how to sum up 2020 and I bet frustrating is one of the words that ops up. For me this year has been incredibly frustrating as it has been so stop and start it is unreal.
There are many things to be frustrated about this year, but rather than dwell on the negatives let's have a look at how we can break through that feeling and come out the other end positive and happy!
This blog will give three examples of dealing with frustration, and getting your mindset back into the positive, focused frame of mind:
1: Take a step back:
This may seem obvious, but when you take a step back from what is frustrating you your mind will open up. When you are frustrated it is very easy to stay focused on one thing, but stepping back allows your mind to open up and become more susceptible to new ideas.
Not being able to go on "date night" with your partner might be getting really old now. eating out is a lovely occasion. But.
Take a step back and think about what you can do to re create that experience:
Have a designated cooking night, where you challenge each other to create menu's from places you have eaten in the past.
During the last lockdown a friend of mine did this, even going as far as creating menus and re decorating the table for dinner. It looked amazing and really inspiring.
This is just one example of how you can make something of a bad situation.
Taking a step back is great when combined with another way of dealing with frustration, which I will cover below:
2: Appreciate the time away:
This one is very applicable to people who are frustrated with their working situation, or their training situation. And due to this I want to give two examples:
Firstly: I love my job. I love that every day I get to work with people who are both inspiring, and inspired. However, there are things (like any job) that can be hard. I regularly wake up at 04:30 for my first day of work and I am bombarded with music from the gym.
This lockdown is a chance for me to have a breather from these things and come back fresh for when I can go back to work again.
Don't get me wrong. I love getting up at that time when I am in the swing of it but it does tire me out towards the end of the week. I am trying to appreciate the time away from this as I know it won't be long before I am back to it.
Secondly, riding. Anyone who follows me will know that I love riding bikes, they will also know that I seemingly love breaking things on my bikes and that means I can't always ride.
This year has been especially frustrating on that front as I can't consistently ride.
However. This is also a perfect chance for me to work on my weak arrears or do something else that I enjoy.
I love running, I love the crisp autumn air on my lungs and the ease of getting out, running, getting in and not having any washing of the bike to do.
For others it is a perfect chance to work on common riding problems like lower back pain, or a weak core.
Appreciate time away as time to grow, time to re structure and time to miss what you love.
You will then look at what you can't do more positively and enjoy the ride. Rather than wishing you were in the same routine.
3: Write it down:
I have said it many times, journaling is an incredibly powerful thing to get into. and in my eyes, there is no reason not to do it. It takes 5 minutes, it's private and it really does help.
The whole idea of journaling is to write down your thoughts and emotions. So you can physically see them. When you can see something it becomes much easier to look into solutions. They also don't seem as bad as they aren't stuck in your mind.
Meaning you can forget about them, and start thinking of ways around them.
Writing down the problems and solutions is an amazing way to re motivate yourself. as it gives you a positive focus point. Where you can focus on the solution. This is progressive, a growth mindset.
Journaling is such an important part of my day I really feel lost without it. And I would encourage you to try it out. I am here to help with the so please email me if you feel like you wouldn't know where to start!
When it comes to frustration there are a number of ways, more than listed here that can help.
I just thought I would list the things that resonate with myself and give some examples.
Remember we are all frustrated about something, especially during these times so never suffer alone. Reach out to a friend, a coach or someone who you feel can listen to you. Understand that everything in life is temporary and that these times won't last either.
So to summarise:
If you are feeling frustrated, and focused on one negative aspect of life. Take a step back, think about this situation, what is the problem? Then look into the solutions, and remember. There are always more solutions than problems.
Appreciate the time away, or the learning experience of what is frustrating and don't suffer in silence. Either write down your thoughts, or talk to a friend or coach.
I hope this blog has helped you in some way. And as always. If you do feel like reaching out.
to email me, and get in touch. I hope you enjoyed the blog.